1)I’m fussy–it bothers me so you know it’s bad. There was a movie moment where I saw the insanity of this kind of behavior. Sleeping with the Enemy Julie Roberts plays the victimized wife of a control freak. She’s escaped from her abuser, and yet she finds herself adjusting the hand towels so that they hang just so… I do stuff like that all the time and no one is making me.
2)I hold a grudge–not attractive, I agree, but there you are. Getting over it is a concept I understand in theory–I just have a lot of trouble putting it into practice.
3)My enthusiasm way exceeds my stamina. I’m not sure which end of that equation needs to be changed. But I do know it’s frustrating to want to do ten things for every one available time slot. At least, I’m never bored.
4)I’d love to be self-actualized. but reality is–I need validation, I crave it.
5)I have no idea how to disagree without being a total bitch about it.
6)I can’t seem to remember to engage brain before opening my mouth. Seriously, I would like to have a carefully rehearsed script for every encounter to hell with spontanity.
Come on and confess anythng you don’t like about yourself, you’ll feel better.
2. Playing the male role, complete with a strap on penis, which they put to good use
3. Being pleasured by two mean simultaneously
4. Getting paid for sex
5. Having sex with another woman while her man watches the action
6. Being dominated by her male partner
7. Having an audience while engaging in sexual acts
8. Dominating their male partner
9. Group sex
10. Sex with a stranger
There is some crossover with the popular male fantasies outlined last week. Group sex, dominating the male partner, sex with a stranger, and penetrating the man anally fall into the common ground category.
Feel free to add fantasies of your own, but in real life please practice safe and consensual sex–it keeps everyone healthy.
Japanese Anemones, tall and graceful they sway with every breeze and multiply like bunnies. I have barely in control clumps in both pink and white here and there perpetually threatening to eradicate everything in their path, but so lovely I tolerate their pushy manners.
For me one of the appeals of writing as a career, is that there’s always more to learn. Many successful writers have been generous with advice. One of my favorite erotic romance authors, Emma Holly has a wonderful reading list here in case you need suggestions.
One of my all time favorites is Debra Dixon’s GMC Goal, Motivation, and Conflict. Being the obsessive creature I am, I have a shelf of essential and well thumbed writing craft books.
Is there a craft book that stands head and shoulders above the rest for you?
A man and a friend are playing golf one day at their local golf course. One of the guys is about to chip onto the green when he sees a long funeral procession on the road next to the course. He stops in mid-swing, takes off his golf cap, closes his eyes, and bows his head in prayer.
His friend says: “Wow, that is the most thoughtful and touching thing I have ever seen. You truly are a kind man.”
The man then replies: “Yeah, well we were married 35 years.”
I actually combined a couple of different lists to come up with this one, the Brits reported one set of fantasies, the Aussies another, and the US a third combination. There may be even wider cultural differences, but I don’t know enough of other languages to attempt that research.
IMHO, the biggest difference between male and female sexual fantasies is that women enjoy theirs as pure fantasy while men long for theirs to come true.
1. Being sexually dominated
2. Role playing sex
3. Penetrating his partner anally
4. Receiving oral sex
5. Sex with a stranger
6. Sex with an older woman
7. Being penetrated anally
8. Spanking, bondage, etc.
9. Sex with two or more women
10. Group sex
Most interesting to me are the overlapping fantasies, sex with a stranger, group sex, being penetrated anally, and of course dominating your big strong man.
Though the calendar says it’s still summer, autumn is in the air even on the sunny days. The fall flowers know it’s their turn.
Colchium Speciosus, aka Autumn crocus, are pictured here. Every fall they provide small pools of refreshing lavender when everything else seems to be rust, bronze or gold. These small wonder bulbs naturalize readily and demand nothing from the gardener other than space,decent drainage, and some sun. The only drawback is their ungainly spring foliage, with this in mind, I plant them mid-border. Siting them behind late winter and spring beauties, which camouflage the species awkward stage.
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